It's annoying to see polar-opposite cultural trends that are each damaging occurring along side each other. On the one hand, some people reduce others to mere sexual instruments. Those people are shallow, objectifying ass holes. But on the other hand, there are others who shame people for ordinary expressions of sexuality. I could be wrong, but it looks like the latter trend is now gaining steam faster. And I am tired of puritanical sexuality-shaming bullies (regardless of their sex) trying to make normal people feel guilty for appreciating, celebrating, and (yes) being moved by sexual beauty. "Moved" doesn't always mean getting passionately turned on, but even when it does, that's okay.

I can already anticipate the knee-jerk rolling of mental wheels and memes: "you're just promoting sexual objectification". Just stop it. Yes, some people go too far with relentless jaw-dropped gawking and/or by making inappropriate comments (and related examples of animalistic excesses), and we should criticize that kind of behavior, but there is also a ridiculous trend of shaming healthy sexuality. This may come as a shock to some (especially certain strains of religious devotees and some sub-groups of condescending and reality-denying millennials), but you can admire and appreciate another person's sexual beauty-- you can even talk aloud about it (obviously within reason and depending on context!!!)-- while simultaneously retaining awareness of that person's intrinsic value and without demeaning them in any way. And if a person (male or female) decides to do modeling (even if it highlights sexuality), they don't automatically become a sell-out or a bad "role model" or a promoter of demeaning sexual objectification. Stop shaming ordinary/non-pathological/non-toxic expressions of sexuality.

I'll take it a step further. Those who shame ordinary sexuality are themselves guilty of shameful behavior. Seriously, if X (female or male!) sees another person and merely tells you "that person is hot", and if you chastise X for expressing that sentiment -- for articulating/putting into words a subjective and internal reaction that they have zero control over-- then you are the one who should be chastised and shamed. The same applies to situations where X takes a few seconds to merely look in awe. That is okay. It's not "bad" or unhealthy. Seriously, if you are someone who makes a fuss over that then please don't associate with me.